From my viewpoint

I’m having a hard time with the new decision to allow gay and lesbian people marry.

Not for the reasons that some people are upset about it, but simply because there is so much “issue” surrounding it.

I grew up in a Catholic family and went to Catholic school for 8 years. I believe in God and feel my life is richer and greater than I can imagine because I believe.  Through many terrible times in my life when I’ve questioned God and have asked why he would “allow” these things to happen to me, my faith in him has pulled me through and having my children has solidified my belief in him even more. I am no theology scholar or anyone really in the scheme of this argument.  I am just a fellow human being with my own thoughts and feelings and I have a nagging feeling in my heart regarding the “issue” of gay and lesbian rights.

All that being said, my stance is that I  believe that people should be allowed to marry whomever they choose. I have a hard time accepting that people say homosexuality is immoral because they way I was raised and taught at my Catholic school was to “treat one another as we wish to be treated, and that God has created all of us out of likeness of him.”

It is stated in Jeremiah 1:5, I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart, this tells me that he created each and every one of us the way he wanted us to be. People do not choose to be gay, they are born that way and if I believe that God has a plan for all of us before we are born, then I leave it up to him. I also believe that people are entitled to some fundamental rights in their lives, such as the right to be happy, the right to live their life in a way that makes them happy and the right to be loved. Who am I to say that I can be in love and marry the person I love because I am heterosexual but you cannot experience the most awesome gift from God (feeling and giving love) because you want to marry a person as the same sex as you are. I wholeheartedly feel that is unacceptable.

Even if the Bible was inspired and ordered by God, it was still written by the imperfect hand of man, understood and interpreted by the limited mind of man from thousands of years ago. It was also then edited and translated thousands of times by said imperfect man. The version of the Bible we see today, all came about in a process where details become misinterpreted or lost due to cultural differences, either between existing cultures or between the same culture but one which has changed over time, information lost in translation, transcription errors (especially early copies of the Bible that were all painstakingly copied by hand by monks under candlelight) and frankly this all comes from a time so far removed from the times we are living in today.-Laurence Wells

If people can change in their lifetime, and “times change” how can we not see that the entire world we live in now has changed over thousands of years? It is not our right or place to judge another human being or their faith but I do believe that there is a “true” message within the minds of the gospel authors at the time of their writings. We must as individuals search responsibly for the “truths” and then make the choice to incorporate what we seek and find into our lives in a moral manner. In a world filled with many cultures, religions, beliefs and practices, who determines which religion is “correct” or which one must be followed? I understand that America was built on Christian values but our Constitution allows for freedom of religion. Thomas Jefferson, one of our founding fathers argued separation of church and state. ” Jefferson believed not only that God created man, and gave humans certain rights, but that the right to think freely for oneself-free from the restraints of ministers, dogma, and government-was central to people’s humanity. He argued that neither religion nor free government could flourish if members could not think for themselves. Forced belief was an oxymoron for Jefferson.  For these reasons, freedom of thought, including the separation of church and state, was essential both for a true religion and for a functioning republic. This is why it was so essential to Jefferson that what he referred to as “freedom of opinion” be guaranteed by the United States Constitution.” (written by John Ragosta for the Encyclopedia Virginia in partnership with the Library of Virginia) So to me, if the 1st Amendment to the Constitution states that congress make no law respecting an establishment of religion or prohibiting its free exercise, then why are so many people upset that it is now deemed legal for gay and lesbian people marry, when the problem people have with this is that it is “against” their religion or immoral in their eyes?

I don’t know about you, but I am not perfect.  Far from it! I personally break some of The Ten Commandments daily. Not the “Thou shall not murder, or commit adultery” ones, but I do not often keep holy the Sabbath and even if I go to Church on Sunday’s the “law” states that “you shall not do any work, you or your son or your daughter, your male or your female servant or your cattle or you sojourner who stays with you (Exodus 20:10) and I sometimes work at my job on Sunday’s and/or clean around the house or try to complete a project or hit the grocery store so I am not following that law very well. I also take the Lord’s name in vain, which I really do try not to and I do feel guilty when I do, but the “law” states “not to take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not leave him unpunished who takes His name in vain” (Exodus 20:7) Ouch! I need to start really watching my words. Anyways, I’m not going to confess all my sins for you people reading this, but I feel that because I was baptized and God is in my heart, he forgives me when I ask for forgiveness and I do try to be a good person every day. I also do not see anywhere in The 10 Commandments, thou shall not be a homosexual or marry the same sex. We as humans sin, every one of us, every single day. Don’t throw stones in glass houses people! I get super annoyed at the people who argue that things are against their religion but these same people don’t follow the “laws” of said religion and then they turn into super humans all of a sudden preaching the word and protesting and pointing fingers, sometimes arguing out of so much anger and disdain-oh the hypocrisy. It honestly neausates me.

I personally know many Christian and Catholic families with gay members.  My one friend is a devout Catholic, keeps holy hours at our Chapel, goes to church regularly, volunteers her time, helps people whenever and wherever she can, and here is the kicker—-her son is a gay man. Gasp!  I can’t speak for her personally, but I know in her heart that she believes he is loved by God and will join him in heaven one day.  I am happy for her, her son, and her entire family that they will be able to celebrate a marriage with their son if he so desires to wed and it will be legal. When I heard about this news, I immediately thought about her and my heart was happy for them. Throughout the years I have had many gay and lesbian friends. They are some of the loveliest people I have had the joy of knowing. I may not “understand” their sexual preferences and I don’t even have to tell you if I agree with it or not because again, that’s not my point, but I understand the need for love and acceptance, and if they have that they can have it all like the rest of us so-called “normal” people.

Another thought I always come to when I hear about how the Bible pushers “attack” people or groups for not following their beliefs is how more often than not, it comes back around to them and we end up finding out about their skeleton’s in their closets. For example, how many priests did we hear about molesting young boys?!? A huge scandal in the Catholic Church.  Now the famous Duggar family is in the news with stories of their oldest son molesting girls, including his sisters. Sad thing is, I can actually understand Josh Duggar’s behavior, because his family is so extreme in their ways of living up to Christianity, but I cannot stomach that he did that to his own sisters. And then, this “perfect” Christian family tried to cover this up for years. Again, glass houses. These are the same people that will fight against gay and lesbian rights because “its against what the Bible tells us” but they themselves are not following the teachings of the Bible very well.

I believe that it is important for our country to follow certain “laws” from a higher power, and that makes us a better society having high standards of morality in which to abide by. But its a huge disservice to us to not be flexible as well as we evolve as a society. I am so lucky to live in America, a “free” country, the best country and at the core of what makes us great is the freedom to speak openly, have the right to choose a religion to follow, freedoms to be ourselves, etc.

Our judgment will come when we die, if we so believe that way, and we only have ourselves and God to answer to then. God can forgive any sin, but he cannot overlook even one sin. We will answer to him when the time comes. Until then, I am going to do my best to be a good person. I want more that anything for my kids to be kind and nice people, accepting of all, and I try to teach that to them every day. We don’t have to agree with everything people do, but we do not need to judge them (God will do that) and for sure we are no better than anyone else. My husband and I will teach our about our religion in our way and as they get older I hope they question it and search for answers and explore other religions for answers too.  Nothing is cut and dry anymore and life is tough. Let’s not make it tougher. Above all I want them to have a loving heart for all people (follow the “Golden Rule”) and I want them to find love, however that works for them.  I will end with a verse that was read at my wedding:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

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